Moving On

Someone commented somewhere how this recent nonsense with the blogs is proof that something isn’t right with this lifestyle. It’s proof that it goes against the way things are supposed to be between a man and a woman. Someone else responded that it has nothing to do with FemDom and FLRs. It’s simply the way of the Internet. I agree. And this is not proof that the Internet is a bad thing. It’s like anything else: it comes down to what you make of it and how you use it. Were it not for the Internet I would not have met Goddess V. Were it not for the Internet I would not have learned about FemDom. Were it not for the Internet I would not have had access to information that I could read, digest and decide for myself whether or not this lifestyle might work for me. Were it not for the Internet I would not have experienced the encouragement to then share my feelings with my wife.

Candace and Katherine West may or may not be for real. But it doesn’t matter. I have met many people face-to-face during my life who are insincere and it has neither proved nor disproved anything to me about anything (except that you must be very careful about who you trust). I take what they say or do with a grain of salt and move on without letting it affect me one way or the other. If Candace and Katherine are if fact insincere, it doesn't change anything for me. I happen to believe in the FemDom lifestyle because in theory it made sense to me when I first read about it. Then in practice I discovered it works even better than I had anticipated. The proof to me is in how it has transformed our marriage into a relationship that lately seems to be causing some degree of alienation with some of our friends. Apparently, we get along too well, are too happy and that is not setting well with those who do have this in their marriage. Could be, but that’s a story for another post.

Suffice to say that Goddess V and I will continue to maintain this blog for the foreseeable future. Hopefully we have a few readers who are considering adopting this lifestyle and our goal is still to encourage you to do so.


Richard said...

I too met my Beloved on the web. And learned a huge amount about BDSM (or whichever acronym) from others' discussions.

There'll always be good blogs/writings by people with assumed identities (not that I feel Candace was such). And bad blogs by real people who don't know how to be true to themselves.

The great blog fuss will fade thankfully. It feels like something out of junior high school.

Queen'sKnight1 said...

Very well said.

Just a note: Candace posted today on

Tom Allen said...

I've read that most blogs dwindle off after about three months. For some people, it's difficult to keep coming up with new ideas and perspectives, and those writing the really good blogs will likely get tired of visiting the same topics over and over. Frankly, I'm not sure how Richard can put so much energy into just one or two, let alone the several dozen he seems to have.

According to the quote from the FLA forum that I read elsewhere indicated that for Candace, she found the blog itself becoming more important than the reason she started it - to explore the change in her relationship. That's probably something for everyone to keep in mind, especially when they find themselves thinking "OMG, I haven't posted in over a week, I better think up a topic!"

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helpmate hubby said...

Glad your keeping the blog going. As for who Elise Sutton is, there are lots of fascinating theories that can be found in her Wikipedia entry.