We have goldfinches who visit our yard each summer to pick at the sunflowers I’ve planted or the thistle that VK puts in one of our bird feeders. A few weeks ago we were on our deck, watching them when I confessed to VK how until 5 or 6 years ago, I was completely unaware of them. The same for the cardinals who feast on sunflower seeds all year long (provided the pesky squirrels don’t gobble them up first). And ditto for a red headed wood pecker who occasionally makes an appearance.

In my defense I’ve gotta say that bird watching was not one of my priorities. I mean, I was too busy raising a house full of kids as a full time Mom. That was A LOT of work! But then one day when I was getting near the age of forty, I did become aware of something that was unexpected. No, it wasn't the birds. It was how my marriage had become a relationship I no longer wanted to be part of in the years ahead. Stick a fork in me—I realized I was done.

For a couple of years after that I don’t think I was aware of much of anything, except maybe the fog that seemed to fill my head. But today my life is very different. I have beautiful birds in my yard! One snowy day a few years ago, my youngest son was amazed to see 5 or 6 cardinals on our deck. I thought that was so cool when I realized that even though he was 16 years old, he’d never seen anything like that.

The birds were probably always in the neighborhood. It only took planting sunflowers or a hand full of birdseed from VK to bring them into our yard.
VK says all the time, “You don’t know what you don’t know.” Sounded like gibberish to me at first but now I think it says it all. Once you’re aware of something, it can change your life—in ways you might never have imagined before you knew what you now know. But I think you have to open yourself to being aware.

BTW, VK dug up a few interesting facts. The American Goldfinch in the picture
above is a male. The female (right) is more olive green. The male is also green but is the only bird to molt twice in one year. He turns bright yellow in the Spring in order to be more attractive to the female. Goldfinches are thought to stay with the same mate for life, except that sometimes a female will leave her first mate to tend to the nest while she goes off to mate with another male, who she then stays with for life. Ya gotta love nature!


Anonymous said...

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VeezKnight said...


We are pleased that you find our blog helpful in establishing your FemDom relationship. Just keep in mind that what works or doesn't work for us does not necessarily translate well into your relationship. There is really no "right" or "wrong" way to go about establishing and maintaining a FLR. Goddess V and I are still learning this as we go.

Regarding the videos, from what I have heard from others, there are very few available. Apparently, most of those are somewhat extreme in nature and show females as sadistic, leather-clad dommes whipping the daylights out of submissive men. But I personally have no experience with these videos so I can't say whether or not they might be appropriate for anyone in a REAL FLR. I suspect they are geared more toward unrealistic fantasy rather than reality.


Anonymous said...

veezknight - thanks for the info, its about what I figured with the research I have done. I really dont care much for the message in the videos that are available. Its all about the guy. Thanks again.

Hoosier said...

Great Goldfinch pictures. Just an FYI, Out side domestic and ferral cats have had a huge effect on the songbird population. I enjoy your blog as I have been reading it for a long time and never posted. I know I will find my Goddess someday.

Happyy, but lacking in Indiana

Anonymous said...

I love the statue. I hope you are both well.


Anonymous said...

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you both

Hoping your Loving Female Authority life is going well.

An update would be wonderful.