Imagine a small cohousing community out of the mainstream, perhaps located on the outskirts of a small rural town. It’s more akin to a village, in which neighbors know one another’s names, smile when they say hello and gather often in a central Common House. Flowers abound and gardens are abundant with vegetables grown organically as residents honor nature and strive to live sustainably.

Imagine a peaceful community in which humans cohabit, where their footprint on Mother Earth is deliberately shallow, and where respect and appreciation for the resources she provides is the order of the day. Residents live separately in modest, but comfortable houses which, while scattered randomly throughout the landscape, are strategically positioned to take advantage of the sun’s solar energy.

But these are not the only features making this community a unique place in which to live. Here woman is revered and worshipped as goddess. Here a Wise Women Council governs and men hold little sway in either private or public affairs. In this community residents reject traditional patriarchy in favor of loving, female-led relationships. FemDom is practiced openly. Women rule absolutely, with males relegated to supportive roles in submission to female authority.

Sound too good to be true? Perhaps, but not in the imagination of one visionary dominant woman. Her vision is to secure a parcel of land in the southeastern sector of the United States, from North Carolina to Florida, on which to develop a FemDom ecovillage that encompasses all of this and more. She calls this community Femquility.

Ms. Lisa Kelly of Naples, Florida is promoting Femquility via a website that presents a somewhat detailed overview of her proposed community, accompanied by welcoming visuals of how the community might look once fully established. Incidentally, all of the graphics in this post were taken from her site. Based solely on the concept, the vision, the dream, I’m enthralled with the notion of calling such a place home. I might add that Goddess V is already itching to have me back our bags.

Unfortunately, Femquility has yet to break ground, nor has there even been a flag planted to mark it’s future location. Enthusiastic as I am, the pragmatist in me warns that translating Ms. Lisa’s dream into reality will require an effort that is nothing short of Herculean. The financial challenges alone are daunting. Short of finding a wealthy dominant woman or submissive man with the financial wherewithal to bankroll such a project, how does one raise enough capital to purchase a reasonably desirable tract of land let alone begin developing it.

Then too, how does one connect with enough people willing to invest in individual properties in Femquility. How many of those people are actually able to relocate due to children, family ties, jobs and other obligations? One European recently wrote in an FLR forum: great idea but too bad its in the United States. Hmmm.

I’m 120 miles from Goddess V as I write this, yet I can hear her say, “If you think negative crap, that’s just what you’ll get.” So let’s end on a positive note. According to experts, the ideal number of people to populate an ecovillage is between 50 and 150. Since the plan for Femquility calls for just 33 individual housing units, not that many people are needed to buy in. And it could very well be that somewhere in the southeastern US, there lives a dominant woman and/or submissive man who owns enough suitable land on which Femquility could be built. It’s a matter of connecting with enough of the right people who believe strongly enough in FemDom and loving female-led relationships.

Femquility is a concept whose time is overdue. Hopefully we’ll soon be reading that construction is under way. I added a permanent link to the Femquility website in the sidebar at right. You can also join the Femquility Yahoo Group to keep tabs on progress.


BobD_VOT said...

I don't think it would be so difficult if you are willing to compromise. I think the idea would be to play down the FEMDOM aspect and to stress the goals and values of the lifestyle. Perhaps also market to an older market (sorry but most of us into FEMDOM seem to be older). There is a cohousing website http://www.cohousing.org which promotes much of the vision of Femquility as it relates to communities. I doubt the community’s bylaws could include any gender specific rules.

I have visited a number of cohousing communities and they generally impose green and more liberal values very successfully. There are also a rather structured non-gender specific Consensus decision-making structure.

Go for it,


VeezKnight said...


You make some good points, especially about marketing to older people because it clearly seems as if the majority of us adopting a FemDom lifestyle are in our 40s, 50s and 60s. I guess because we've spent too many years in relationships that haven't worked as well as we'd like.

Having a marketing background, I see a viable option worth pursuing is to partner with an established community of some sort that might be "FemDom friendly." In the business world it isn't unusual for one company to partner with another (sometimes even a competitor) in order to market a product for which it hasn't the inferstructure to support or the financial resources to market effectively.

Nudist communities come to mind. There are a number of well established such communities, especially in Florida. While not necessarily overly committed to being "green," residents obviously have a healthy appreciation for nature and are more open-minded toward so-called alternative lifestyles than your average person. The interesting thing is that these communities are thriving and expanding. Real estate values within them have remained stable even while housing prices in surrounding areas are falling.

It's a thought.

Any way you look at it, lacking sufficient venture capital, or a partner that is willing to supply that capital, establishing a FemDom community in any shape or form is a formidable challenge.

helpmate hubby said...

i can think of no place on earth where i would rather live.

JD said...

That sounds like it could be a wonderful place to live. Perhaps in addition to marketing to an older demographic, some consideration might be given to a "time-share" model. I'd imagine that as some couples have access to more disposable income, they might not be able to live in such a place year round, but might opt for a seasonal or vacation parcel if it was available.

Anonymous said...

I would suggest somewhere outside Atlanta. With the large population you will find people interested among the population that is already located there(like me and my wife!). Furthermore people aren't likely to or financially cannot give up their careers to pursue this, so being close to a large thriving city would be a plus. I would not restrict it to older people though. My wife and I are in our thirties, and I detect a trend toward this lifestyle in younger people.