It's been over a year and a half since I blogged with any degree of regularity and followed a handful of other blogs dealing with female-led relationships. Recently I took a quick tour through blog land, following links from one to another. All I can say is WTF. FemDom blogs are much different than they used to be.
First off, there seems to be a lot more of them. Secondly, a few years ago most blogs were written by men, many of whom fantasized about being dominated by a woman, less by husbands who were actually living the dream. Scattered among them were a few that were supposedly written by dominant women, and of those, I'd always suspected most were actually written by men as a means of feeding their hungry fantasies.
Today there is no dearth of blogs authored by dominant women often sharing personal and graphic accounts of 24/7 relationships with their submissive and often sissy (more about that in a subsequent post) husbands. There's also no shortage of blogs maintained by submissive husbands with a seemingly intense interest in being cuckolded by their dominant wives. Many of these blogs, as well as others—even those penned by “dominant wives”—are filled with explicit images depicting various acts that can be (but are not necessarily) a part of a wife-led lifestyle. The end result is that a large portion of today’s FemDom blogs have a decidedly pornographic look.
Look, I'm no Puritan. I can appreciate a hot, sexually explicit visual as much as the next guy, but I'm gonna plant a flag in the ground here and now by saying that in my opinion, this shift in blogging about FemDom and wife-led marriages in general is not one for the better. It could be that I'm just getting old and too out of touch with the world. But when I first started this blog it was a way of working through my own feelings and to provide encouragement to other men, some who had "come out" but probably more who were still terrified at thought of confessing submissive desires to their wives. And it wasn't to pander to male sexual fantasies.
I also thought it a good idea to do this blogging thing using a style that hopefully would not immediately alienate or offend a woman visitor. This in case a husband wanted to point his unsuspecting wife toward my little corner of cyberspace to help explain what was going on in her husband's head. For the life of me I can't imagine a woman landing on any of today's sexually explicit blogs without regarding it as simply an extension of Internet pornography. News flash: it's not women who are driving the porn industry! Nothing says male-created porn like close-ups of female genitalia and women with semen-covered faces.
Anyway, I'm thinking if I continue with this blog, it will be to maintain the position of that original flag in the ground. So alas, you won't find tons of sexually explicit images on this blog. Okay, maybe some nudity because I happen to see great beauty in the nude female form. But apart from that you'll find mostly honest FemDom-oriented ruminations of a happily married middle-aged couple who are still exploring their way through a mutually satisfying wife-led relationship. ~VK
