Why Do We Do It!

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Ever notice a degree of animosity that seems to lurk just below the surface between men and women? Maybe it’s disdain. Maybe intolerance. Maybe disapproval. Maybe distrust. Or maybe it’s all of these things.

Get a group of women together and often there’s a good deal of man bashing going on. I walked into our lunch room today to grab my third (or maybe it was my fourth) cup of coffee. A small group of older ladies were chatting over lunch about their husbands, both former and present. What comments I heard were light-hearted enough, but they weren’t what I would call complimentary. All of the men in question suffered from short-comings, as least from the female perspective, attributable to their belonging to the male gender. Same old same old.

Get a group of men together. After they finish discussing the breasts, or the ass, or the legs of the woman who just walked out, talk turns to… well perhaps it turns to the breasts, ass or legs of the woman who just walked in… then it turns to how unreasonable and illogical woman are, and down right nearly intolerable they are. One guy might recount how, “If they didn’t have a pussy, they wouldn’t even make a good friend.” Same old same old.

Yet most of us wanted to get married. Not to someone of the same sex, but to the opposite sex. Hmmm. And many of us remain married. Most of those who don’t usually get remarried. Some repeat that cycle again and again. Okay, men being the poor bastards that we are, who think with our little heads, can blame it on our desire to get laid. That means we apparently must forget how wives suffer from lock-jaw and frequent headaches. But what’s the story on women? Ask any middle age woman who owns a vibrator: she sure as hell doesn’t need a man to take care of business in that department.

So why do we do it? Really, why do we do it? And don’t give me a line about companionship. One can get that from a best friend or a dog, or even an alter ego. Yes, I know nature intended it this way to ensure procreation of the species, but since when do humans follow all the laws of nature, especially now that we’ve gotten smart enough to decide Pluto is not a planet.

I didn’t know why we do it, or rather, why I did it. Until I made a conscious decision to do something that, quite frankly, I was reluctant to do: submit to the leadership, guidance and control of a woman.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

"Get a group of men together."

I did, and they talked about football (Americans call it soccer), doping in sports, the latest developments in consumer electronics, cars, where they were going on their next vacation.

Perhaps you are over generalizing

Biff said...

Dear Veezknight,
My personal, totally unscientific opinion ... it is the differences between the sexes which provides both the attraction and the irritation. You can't have one without the other. Just as you can't get drunk without the hangover. I find it a worthwhile tradeoff.
I am not sure that even submitting to the authority of a loving woman is enough to eliminate the irritations. But it does help to control them.
By the way, would you consider giving us an update on your experiences with the chastity device? It would be very informative for me. Thanks!

Lady Julia said...

To "Anonymous": Of course there was some generalization in Veezknight's post. Why is it in today's overly PC society we are almost *compelled* to qualify every public comment with statements like "Of course I don't mean everyone" or "This isn't always the case"? Why can't we assume that someone like Veezknight (clearly a reasonable and intelligent man) had no intention of making an all inclusive statement? It would seem far more productive to simply focus on any applicable insight you may have gleaned than to criticize.

Veezknight: I'd have to agree with Candace. Since the good we garner from a healthy relationship far outweighs the bad, we make ourselves deal with the bad one way or another to get that "good". I think a LFA relationship helps us actually vent our feelings about some of those negatives to the person who actually needs to hear them because we've established a dynamic in which we feel more comfortable both expressing our feelings and in accepting how the other person feels as well.

Queen'sKnight1 said...

Quote: I didn’t know ...why I did it. Until I made a conscious decision to do something that, quite frankly, I was reluctant to do: submit to the leadership, guidance and control of a woman.

And isn't it astounding how much happiness, not just happiness, but pure outright JOY that brings to both genders? I could never have imagined that I would feel so fulfilled and blessed as I do with my Darling Wife guiding the relationship and me.

Selmer said...

Try being alone for a while and one can see a good reason. The joy of waking up next to someone that you know and love is another. The benefits so out number the negatives for me. FLR is a great tool to work through the issues that arise.
I just started a blog about our trip through FLR. Please take a look. http://whippedalaska.blogspot.com/

Anonymous said...

"then it turns to how unreasonable and illogical woman are"

An over-generalization, to my mind, but I do not wish to be accused of missing any insight lurking there. I will forgo being politically correct (PC), and make no attempt, even in the gentlest manner, to ask him to qualify what he has stated. I will simply assume that he would do so if asked , since he is "clearly a reasonable and intelligent man".

brdspet said...

Anonymous:
Are you reasonable and intelligent enough to understand a little tongue in cheek humor?

Anonymous said...

To brdspet:

My initial comment was "tongue in cheek" humor. Lady Julia then broached the subject of PC.

My second comment was sarcasm, which some observers consider to also be an element of humor.

"Intelligent and reasonable" -
that's a tough call. On a good day with a strong tailwind - yes.

VeezKnight said...

Candace & Lady Julia,
Even though sometimes I'm amazed that a man and woman can live together under the same roof, clearly nature intended for it to be this way. To your point, Candace, the difference is actually part of the attraction. And if I have learned anything in my 50-some years, it is that nothing worthwhile (damn, there goes another one of those generalizations), comes easily. The very best things in life come with the highest price tags... and I am not talking about houses or cars.

Candace,
I had planned to provide an update on my experience with that gizmo.

Lady J, I hadn't thought about it in exactly those terms, but I think you are correct in that a LFR provides an ideal forum to address the differences between genders. I have found that communication between Goddess V and me is better now than it has ever been. As a result I think we are more accepting of our differences, not just as dominant and submissive, but as woman and man. And in some ways, the ways in which Goddess V differs from me have become marks of her authority in our marriage.

QK & selmer,
Yep, I hear you. I am happier and feel more fulfilled than ever. Just being a part of Goddess V's life was wonderful, but submitting to her authority and control has taken it to a new level that is better than I ever imagined.

Anonymous said...

A small group of older ladies were chatting over lunch about their husbands, both former and present. What comments I heard were light-hearted enough, but they weren’t what I would call complimentary.

Get a group of men together. After they finish discussing the breasts, or the ass, or the legs of the woman who just walked out, talk turns to… well perhaps it turns to the breasts, ass or legs of the woman who just walked in… then it turns to how unreasonable and illogical woman are...

Veezknight's observations about women's and men's comments about the opposite sex are a perfect illustration of what their attitude is toward each other. Women will belittle their own men anytime. Men will comment about women in general, but never complain about the women they're involved with. (I'm sure it wasn't Veezknight's intention to highlight this)

Yes, an awful generalization...