tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.comments2023-07-06T10:37:25.613-04:00Wife-Led MarriageVeezKnighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00021331580700938324noreply@blogger.comBlogger554125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-66092356993249978962022-11-08T13:47:36.827-05:002022-11-08T13:47:36.827-05:00Great blog post thanks for sharing. Great blog post thanks for sharing. Fairfield Glass Cuttinghttps://www.glass-professionals.com/us/custom-glass-california/fairfield-glass-cutting.shtmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-45583436995816319582022-04-11T13:46:38.046-04:002022-04-11T13:46:38.046-04:00Lovely blog yoou have hereLovely blog yoou have hereTyreesehttps://www.tyreesenelson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-58133142462945080082020-04-11T13:43:48.230-04:002020-04-11T13:43:48.230-04:00Please come back!
Please come back!<br /><br />makitohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09284574034820213799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-50593165567225824252017-01-03T21:19:51.505-05:002017-01-03T21:19:51.505-05:00Let's hope ya stay that way -
married till dea...Let's hope ya stay that way -<br />married till death.<br /><br />God bless your indelible souls.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09161116712679365281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-21963887422597861622017-01-03T21:19:48.972-05:002017-01-03T21:19:48.972-05:00...and no, dear, you aint a goddess.
You're a ......and no, dear, you aint a goddess.<br />You're a sinfull mortal who'll die.<br />D'oh.<br /><br />Wanna have Intimacy4eternity?<br />Wanna wiseabove to Seventh-Heaven?<br />Follow us...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09161116712679365281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-27445832924432691062017-01-03T21:19:22.719-05:002017-01-03T21:19:22.719-05:00...and no, dear, you aint a goddess.
You're a ......and no, dear, you aint a goddess.<br />You're a sinfull mortal who'll die.<br />D'oh.<br /><br />Wanna have Intimacy4eternity?<br />Wanna wiseabove to Seventh-Heaven?<br />Follow us...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09161116712679365281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-36218288745416692622017-01-03T21:16:27.897-05:002017-01-03T21:16:27.897-05:00Let's hope ya stay that way -
married till dea...Let's hope ya stay that way -<br />married till death.<br /><br />God bless your indelible souls.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09161116712679365281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-90880044170719468372016-10-21T07:27:30.423-04:002016-10-21T07:27:30.423-04:00I've explored the concept of FLR, and I must s...I've explored the concept of FLR, and I must say, I don't get it. My experience has been that the vast majority of <br />women desire a man who is strong and in control. They are definitely turned off by weak and pusilanimous men.<br />The over the top bombast that one can find on certain blogs, ("You will acknowledge that all females are superior to males", "Women are naturally the dominant sex"), is simply nonsense. <br />The FLR seems far more about a male's fantasy, and I think women are willing to go along with it, because they in fact want to please their man. Ironically, it is also evident that for many women, this is a compensating behavior for their own feelings of inferiority or insecurity. Note, I don't say women are inferior, but that those who are drawn to the FLR have these sentiments. Men are partners in it because for them, it's one extended role play and they find it sexually stimulating. I grant that when the play goes on and on, it does become a lifestyle, and the couple begins to think in this terms all the time, but let's be clear, it began as, and at the core remains a game. You're just playing it all the time. Women who continue to need the sort of "affirmation" that comes with a man being a subservient and perpetually demure partner are likely feeding their need for security in a rather odd manner. <br /><br />Men should love their wives in a self-sacrificing manner, caring for them, and yes, serving them, but not as slaves or the lesser partner. Men, above all, need respect from their wives, and the FLR so often seems bent on disrespect. This is not a formula for a succesful relationship. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-18590416464909732112016-03-17T06:10:49.405-04:002016-03-17T06:10:49.405-04:00Sad life , honestly , if you want to be a woman ge...Sad life , honestly , if you want to be a woman get a sex change ! There is no real union between man and woman in these crazy relationships Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581455822834430311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-87017502623885179522016-01-21T21:32:19.637-05:002016-01-21T21:32:19.637-05:00I have been married 17 years in my FLR lifestyle. ...I have been married 17 years in my FLR lifestyle. I wore a gown at our wedding, I am the housewife. I cook, clean, maintain the home, do laundry, and shopping for my Goddess. I was put in chastity and demonized during our engagement. I was also given lessons to become an expert in cunillingus by practicing on my fiancee and her friends. I was also milked and pegged until I could cum by prostrate stimulation with no touching of my genitals. I was a virgin who masturbated heavily with Fetishes for used panties, short skirts, vagina worship. I got so I came in my panties just smelling my wife's scent, or from a taste of her juices. I am 46 now I am still a virgin, I dress as a woman, take female hormones, and love eating my cum as she has made me do. I also love when she brings me home cream pie to eat. I am raising our daughter ( I don't know the father). Sometimes she let's me kneel look up her skirt at her vagina and masturbate. I love itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-55520789249820761312015-02-25T16:27:24.241-05:002015-02-25T16:27:24.241-05:00Hope you continue blogging soon,
I have read many...Hope you continue blogging soon, <br />I have read many of your posts and find them taste full with class and to the point, but more importantly I have found them genuine, my Wife and I are starting to toy with the Idea of a Wife Lead Marriage, what that really means in our relationship is that we are about ready to openly commit to our natural roles <br /><br />From the moment we became friends, her dominant status was established by both of us, not just her! <br />it was not an open statement from one or the other, but her strong personality and take charge attitude along with my then submissive tendencies that took over, <br />don't get me wrong our courtship was that of a typical alpha jock going after the pretties girl in school <br />only in one way or another it always ended up being on her terms :) <br /><br />We have been friends for 10 years now and Wife & Husband for 7, the funnies thing is that although I've always been her friend, her lover, her servant and admirer, <br />and she has always been there to lead, guide and love me, we've never till recently openly talked about the TRUE nature of our relationship,<br />we have both always known who is in charge and make absolutely no efforts to either show it or hide it<br />in private or in public <br />I find our marriage to look so typical from the outside, that to the untrained eye it seems no different, we've have yet to meet another couple in this position but I do suspect they would be able to pick up the subtle differences :) <br /><br />Anyway going back to the original subject, <br />very recently during what I can only discrive as the most loving and honest conversation of my life <br />mi Wife for the first time in our lives has oppenly let me know that she is the one in charge, <br />that she willingly and willfully owns and contols me, and my obedience is not welcome, is expected, <br />and has always been so! <br />During that same combersation for the first time I also openly admitted to her, <br />I love she is the one in charge, and that I have always willingly and willfully obeyed her, <br />that I am submissive, that I am her submissive and I love being so and serving her <br /><br />Needless to say even thou we went backwards where the D/s was establish way before the aknowledgement of it's desired was stated <br />we have reignithed something within and are hungryer for eachother than ever <br />just living it was wonderfull but nowing it's deliverate in both sides is heaven :) <br />I find my self recently searching the web for like minded people, but have been hit in the face <br />with obcene, distasefull wesites and groups of people who do not seem to have and idea of what TRUE "FemDom" is <br />we are both begginig our thirties and most of this sites seem to have been created by 18 to 23 year old frat kids <br />who probably rented a porno movie that had the FemDom label on it, and actually think that applies to real life <br />so when I came across your site I was happily surprise and I will end my comment as I started it <br />Hope you continue blogging soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-46832367533332309762015-02-25T06:34:53.822-05:002015-02-25T06:34:53.822-05:00A very accurate observation, I believe that becaus...A very accurate observation, I believe that because of the success of shows like the simpsons (which I do find quite funny) advertisers are trying to put a homer like character into the ads as they hope people will laugh and therefore remember the ad. I also agree with a previous comment about how these ads are also designed to manipulate women into buying from a particular store or particular brand. The idea that that company understands you, even better than your husband. Is should be noted that this in itself is nothing new, most ads are aimed to manipulate the audience that would possibly buy the products, you only have to watch your child react to a toy commercial to see this.<br /><br />The concept is flawed though, at least in regards to my first point. The reason that most people (i hope) enjoy shows such as the simpsons or family guy is because they make comedy out of what is going on at the current time in news. politics, trends and so on. Whereas, an add about yoghurt is hardly a piece of comedic social commentary.<br /><br />Finallly, although I am quite aware how old this post is, and the comments in it, and hence I am almost positive that it will not be seen buy who I am about to mention. Anthony who posted earlier, and spoke of how he is so much smarter than all women and gave us way tmi on his sexual prowess. To you Anthony, I have to as just why the F*&% are you reading a blog about female led relationships? For me at least and I presume many others, this is not all about the bedroom, and to borrow a more BDSM type term it seems quite obvious that even in this you are simply topping for the bottom, look it up if you don't know what that means.<br /><br />ChrisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-77810885732523735172015-02-25T05:54:18.574-05:002015-02-25T05:54:18.574-05:00I just wanted to say Thank You, and also Thank God...I just wanted to say Thank You, and also Thank God. I have wasted so much time trying to find any real tips and experiences in a WLM (as per your post after this one, I too have always used the word femdom and interpreted the word to mean a dominant female, but it is so hijacked now I would nt normally even use it, it is quite frustrating, if my wife was wanting to find out more about exploring her dominant side and how that can work, help and strengthen our marriage I sincerely doubt she would find anything remotely useful, only repulsive things if she typed in femdom or similar in Google) .<br /><br />For myself and my wife we have gradually headed (and still are) towards her being much more in control over multiple areas. We also both love each other and I wouldn't even want to show her most of the "femdom" stuff online as she would find it quite ridiculous and or repulsive, even more so than me. <br /><br />Why can't more people talk about how you can be submissive and want to please your wife because you simply like to please her without either her or you wanting you to dress up as a girl while she sleeps with someone else? Maybe, it is possible that somewhere in the world there is couples like this but I can't imagine any real long-term relationship coming from it.<br /><br />Although I have always had submissive desires as such, it was never really part of our marriage. Some time ago, after many fights and so on she actually left and it looked like we would both go our seperate ways. We have now decided to try and make our marriage work and without asking or begging for her to be dominant it has just gradually happened. I would bring up an idea and she would agree and actually take it further (as in her control over various (non-sexual)things and even when it comes to sex, I take time to make sure she is satisfied, not because she orders me to but because I want to and it makes me happy when she is happy and contented in all areas.<br /><br /><br /><br />I look forward to reading your further posts, and reading your previous ones.<br /><br />Thanks for just being real<br /><br />ChrisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-17834407496906431762015-02-16T23:36:15.477-05:002015-02-16T23:36:15.477-05:00With much respect to the above commenter, it's...With much respect to the above commenter, it's necessary to read between the lines on the couple stories. For example, the woman motivating her husband to lose weight. Whether they discussed it or not, it was something he wanted. The man was in a stressful job, and he over ate to relieve his stress. This made him heavier, which made him unhappy, so he ate more, gained weight, became more unhappy, etc. it's a downward spiral, and he probably felt trapped in the cycle. His wife was clever enough to recognize this, and she replaced the food habit with exciting, imaginative lovemaking that brought them closer together. If he really hated the idea, he could have dug his heels in and refused until she dropped the idea. And she strikes me as the type who was perceptive enough to recognize if she truly hurt his feelings. Sometimes in a relationship, consent is established in ways other than verbal discussion.<br /><br />As for the way Ms. Cross described men, it's important to remember that this book was written in the 90's by a woman who grew up in the 50's and 60's. In that time, most men fit that description. It's a lot different now, most young men are way more open and emotive than their fathers and grandfathers ever dreamed of being. She was simply commenting on the men of her time. As a guy in his seventies, I've lived long enough to see the changes. Thanks for the interesting postChloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09379637564450607568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-65003700871630466932015-01-23T22:57:44.190-05:002015-01-23T22:57:44.190-05:00Interesting book. I like some of her ideas, altho...Interesting book. I like some of her ideas, although I think she generalizes men a bit too much. Most men don't need to be embarrassed to be attracted to their partner. Nor do most men hide their feelings from their partners to avoid appearing weak Also, she encourages women to play with a guy post orgasm. She mentions that it doesn't really hurt, men just don't know they can take it. And how would she know how it feels? Does she have a dick? My wife ties me up on a fairly regular basis,and if she did that, I wouldn't let her tie me up again for a long time. Every guy is different, for some of us it really does hurt. And with all due respect to Ms cross, I would take her advice to married couples with a grain of salt. She herself admitted to not believing in marriage and having few long term relationships of her own. I doubt she truly understands the dynamics of committing your life to a spouse. She tells the stories of a few married couples who use her techniques. I suspect a lot of that was fictionalized, because it seemed very non consensual, and regardless of our fantasies, domination and kink has to be discussed and agreed to before you attempt it. For example, one woman she knew told her overweight husband he would have to lose a pound for each time they had sex. She even reasoned to herself that he was too fat to have an affair, so he would probably give in and go along with her terms. Really? Is that how you treat your husband, your love, your best friend? My wife and I are pretty kinky, but if she tried something like that, it would hurt my feelings so bad I wouldn't want to have sex with her anymore. Sorry for the rant, some of her ideas are really hot, but she seems to paint men as emotionally stunted oafs who need controlling. The vast majority of us are not that way at all. Lets be honest, any guy that reads this blog is the type of guy who puts a lot of thought and emotion into his sex life. <br /><br /> <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-547864974560838512015-01-07T00:43:22.759-05:002015-01-07T00:43:22.759-05:00Beautiful sharing...it seems to be written by a re...Beautiful sharing...it seems to be written by a real..person in WLM and not by any porn writter..thanks for sharing.JSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-36105460954436638692014-08-07T07:46:31.806-04:002014-08-07T07:46:31.806-04:00Goddess V, I hope you will consider reviewing my b...Goddess V, I hope you will consider reviewing my book: "Real Women Don't Do Housework"<br /><br />http://www.scribd.com/doc/207590365/<br />Fumika Misatohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588157857598748010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-88185506519456216982014-06-22T15:14:49.135-04:002014-06-22T15:14:49.135-04:00To Justanotherguy,
I just read your comment to God...To Justanotherguy,<br />I just read your comment to GoddessV and we agree: what a heart felt and honest post. We are always amazed at how so many couples (and singles) tell us that they find so much positive in our blog. Honestly, I am feeling guilty for not having posted in so long. Thank you for your thoughts and your kind words.VeezKnighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00021331580700938324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-2383559809890417922014-06-20T16:10:39.086-04:002014-06-20T16:10:39.086-04:00To the last anon comment regarding submissiveness ...To the last anon comment regarding submissiveness being an "off shoot of this problme":<br /><br />I grew up in a very happy home. I had a loving, nurturing mother who stayed home with me until I attended Kindergarten, and through her teaching, I was already at a 2nd grade level. I also had a strong father who left for his blue collar job very early in the morning and because of this, he was home and spent a great deal of time with me in the afternoons after school and at night. We had dinner together. We vacationed together. There was discipline from both sides, predominated from my father but my mother played her part. There was nothing, on the surface level, that would suggest that my childhood had anything to do with why I enjoy being submissive to my wife. My who, who I should add, is 12 years my junior. We are only beginning this journey, but so far, we have both found it to fit us like a glove. It's been the best thing that has ever happened to either of us. <br /><br />To suggest that this lifestyle is an off shoot of a problem is offensive and narrow-minded. Different people enjoy different things. No two people are alike, and no two couples are alike. My situation would suggest that your theory is flawed. I also love how of the limited number of negative comments that I've read on this blog, 100% have been from those who wish to remain anon. Just my thoughts.<br /><br />To VK and Goddess: <br />I've thoroughly enjoyed your blog. Your's has been the most insightful blog on FLR I've read.JustAnotherGuynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-38836096668795772922014-04-02T21:17:36.882-04:002014-04-02T21:17:36.882-04:00My husband and I are in a FLR. We actualy gave thi...My husband and I are in a FLR. We actualy gave this a great deal of thought and preparation before committing to doing this. We first joined an organization from the web site (www.aboutFLR.com) then trained with their material. This organization presents the concept in a realistic manner not based on fantasy.karenghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01168244844359921196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-74056891231729179292014-03-19T14:39:44.673-04:002014-03-19T14:39:44.673-04:00We are in a WLM for the last 6 months and it is go...We are in a WLM for the last 6 months and it is going good. At first my wife was turned off by what she found online. She said that she did not want a slave or to be called Mistress. I explained to her the non fantasy version which was her being like the president of the company. I was one of her executives and she could assign whatever tasks to me that she wanted to, listen to my advice and even argue about the positions we take. However, as the President, she had the final say.<br /><br />Over the months we have added chastity and some light D/s play but it is not a lifestyle. It is something we do for a while and then go on with our normal lives. That is where we are at now and will not go further since I am basically dominant and my wife, submissive. Despite this our WLM is working well. We have not had one single fight in the last 6 months, which is a record for us. I am happy because she is happy. <br /><br />We love our new lifestyle and keep looking for things to compliment it on the sexual front. However, at its core, a WLM is simply a role reversal where my wife leds the relationship, not me. As I tell guys, just as you did not treat your wife as a slave when you were in charge, why do you think that by simply changing roles, your wife will grow latex skin, high heeled feet and start a collection of whips?<br /><br />The problem with most male thinking is that they pretend that it is for their wive's benefit but actually want it to work along the lines of whatever fantasy they have in their mind. A true WLM or FLR, is not about living out a fantasy but rather, doing what works best for the couple. My wife runs our household much better than I can so she has full control of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-1637600537326143842014-03-06T22:50:29.191-05:002014-03-06T22:50:29.191-05:00my marriage, while i try to get my wife to try org...my marriage, while i try to get my wife to try orgasm denial, she is not into it, leading me to wish she would embrace something I think is the best idea ever. Bravo for doing this post. I wish more women thought this way. I like the idea of having a dominate female in my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-85000995963327639192014-01-26T03:11:49.094-05:002014-01-26T03:11:49.094-05:00I to want to thank you for your advice.My husband ...I to want to thank you for your advice.My husband and are new to the lifestyle.I want to start our female led marriage and grow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-75831505718405877132013-12-30T14:10:35.793-05:002013-12-30T14:10:35.793-05:00My wife and I are senior citizens and have been in...My wife and I are senior citizens and have been in a wife led marriage for most of our 41 years of marriage. For the first 38 years we had a permanent threesome with her girlfriend that surprisingly lasted all that time with no problems, even when her g/f got married. So I am used to females ruling the roost.<br /><br />I just started reading about FLRs on the internet a few months ago and the general impression I got was that most of what I read was pure fantasy. Things like having their wives invite all the friends to dinner and have the submissive husband serve them dressed like a maid and then everyone pees on him afterwards. Come on. Get real.<br /><br />I used to run some forums a long time ago and learned that most "women" who post are actually guys who get their kicks by posting as a woman, the things they want done to them. At this point the only internet sites I believe are those that treat a FLR realistically. For some reason, many men think that their wives magically grow latex skin and high heels while starting a whip collection simply because they switched roles.<br /><br />Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for your blog. It is rare that I come across someone who realistically writes about a real FLR. Sure we play some BDSM games but they end in the bedroom and are not played all the time. My wife does not tell me to do anything, she asks and then thanks me afterwards. She does not make me do things simply to display her control over me. Fact is, if she asked me to do something I really did not want to, I would not do it. If she embarrassed me in front of others, it would be over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20935247.post-18657574331825301812013-09-14T18:45:59.994-04:002013-09-14T18:45:59.994-04:00dead blog!dead blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com